Sexual fantasies: We all have them, but few can understand what they mean. Fantasies sexually arouse us, ignite our curiosity because they seem inexplicable, and often make us feel ashamed. That's why we don't reveal them to our romantic partners or even to our therapists. In this exciting and provocative book, Dr. Michael J. Bader presents a groundbreaking conception of sexual desire, allowing us to deeply understand our erotic preferences and ultimately express our sexuality more freely.

"My theory about the causes of sexual arousal is based on my clinical experience as a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst. In patients, it can reveal a new psychological landscape to explore. In therapists, it can show a new way to listen to and understand the patient when they talk about sex. Therefore, this book is not only addressed to mental health professionals, but to all of you who have the curiosity to explore sexuality, your own or others', or who feel unspoken shame about what sexually arouses you."