Is motherhood a human instinct? Is there a maternal filter? What is really true about the biological clock? Do women who didn't have children regret it? Are there women who had children and regretted it? To what extent is motherhood freely chosen or socially imposed? Is it selfish that I (don't) want a child? Is it normal that I don't want to become a mother? How can I be sure if I want a child or not?

When motherhood is considered the supreme value and the only "normal" path for all women, women who think about not becoming mothers face constant pressure to conform to the prevailing social norm and fulfill their "nature." The pressures start so early that many women find it difficult to detect their "real" desires. 

Having children is considered a non-decision, a law of nature, resulting in the blurring of the lines between wanting to become a mother and consenting to become a mother. How we use our wombs divides women into successful and unsuccessful.

This book, based on research and the psychotherapy groups organized by Lyo Kalovyrnas since 2012, gives a voice to women, with or without children, who are not only unheard but also silenced and underestimated as problematic or non-existent.